Christians Don’t Get to Just “Do Me”

Those into the whole “you do you, I’ll do me” thing will always get a side eye from me. The idea doesn’t sit well with me because I believe it’s unbiblical.

Generally speaking, whenever church members get into a personal bind, issue, or difficulty, many believe the best response is to take some time away from the church. They say, “I need to just work on me for some time. I need to better myself, and then I’ll be back in church.”


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It’s one of those things that kind of makes sense, but it’s not what God tells us to do. In fact, let’s just be straight up — if it was okay to skip church, or back away from the church, because we had some personal issues, there would be no one in church.

We can safely agree and confess that all of us have issues, problems, and difficulties. This is not a valid reason to skip church or stop serving in the church.

Have you ever clipped your toenail too short?

How many of us have clipped a nail too short? Maybe it went so short that blood was drawn! It’s painful and uncomfortable. And how many of us decide to leave that toe or finger at home that day? Just because it’s a pain doesn’t mean you should lop it off, leave it at home, and sew it back on later.

No! The rest of the body bears the pain and remains together.

Scripture says the church is one body with many members (1 Corinthians 12) — we are members one of another (Ephesians 4:25).

Furthermore, the Apostle Paul explains, “If one member suffers, all suffer together; if one member is honored, all rejoice together. Now you are the body of Christ and individually members of it” (1 Corinthians 12:26-27).

Therefore, do not just do you! We are supposed to walk through the good and the bad together.

What you do affects the whole church.

Now, if we can get real for a moment, we must understand that we really are a part of a body. This means that our personal decisions affect more lives than our own.

If you’re going through a difficulty, and decide to stay home because of it, you are simply holding back the church.

As it was stated earlier, I’ll say it again for those in the back — if it was okay to skip church, or back away from the church, because we had some personal issues, there would be no one in church. We need one another.

Personal failures and difficulties could very well involve leaders stepping down from leadership positions, but the body as a whole must stick together at all times, especially when difficulties arise.

Let me ask you this for some introspection and examination — can you honestly say that you are a part of the body, or are you your own body? Are you visiting your church, or are you a church visiting a church?

I ask this to help clarify your perspective on the local church. Have you realized that, as a Christian, you are a part of a family? You are one part of a whole. And the decisions you make affect the rest of the church. Those who believe in taking time away from the church to work on themselves actually believe they are their own body.

Let’s make our witness to the world stronger.

Some believe this discussion is pointless. Some say, “This is irrelevant. Let’s just talk about Jesus and the gospel.” I would argue that we are.

The Bible’s teaching about the church body is totally appropriate for discussion. In fact, if the church is unified and healthy, they will have a stronger witness to the world.

We must also understand this — when we are saved from sin, we aren’t just saved to God; we are also saved into God’s family.

It seems silly to me that some would believe they can love God, follow him, and obey him without loving the local church. We are called to be a healthy part of the body for the glory of God, with Christ as our head.

How can we proclaim unity to the world, yet lack unity in our church family? How can we promote reconciliation without living out the ministry of reconciliation?

Indeed, we are called to walk through all of life — the good and the bad — with the whole body of Christ, and function as a healthy family.

The “I’ll just do me” garbage is not what God tells us to do. We are one church, united in one faith — one hope.

Let us examine ourselves to see if we are living how God has directed. We are members one of another. The decisions we make affect the whole body. May we seek this kind of unity and strengthen our witness to the world.


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11 thoughts on “Christians Don’t Get to Just “Do Me”

  1. The church that I am currently a part of doesn’t have it’s own building…yet (it’s in the works). We currently meet in a movie theater that we rent on Sundays. We have been doing this for over 10 years. I can tell you from experience with this church, that it’s, without a doubt, the people that make the church. We have great services there!

    This is a very good read. Thank you!

    1. That’s awesome. We have one of our CrossPoint campuses meeting in a movie theater. It’s definitely a great test for genuine community! Thanks for reading.

  2. I wished “church” in the actual building was like it should be…where people meet to bare their souls and share their burdens but it’s not. These days a lot of people go to church just to check it off their list. There’s no deep healing going on because people fail to share and be real with each other. It’s sad and turns people away. I have had experiences where people that come in may seem different or look different and those “dressed up” church goers intimidate them out the door. Not all people were raised in a stable and loving home or finished school or went to college. Those things that society calls “normal” we don’t fit the standards therefore we go where we are accepted. We go outside the “church building” to be the church. We reach people that are hurting and don’t feel like they belong anywhere. Meanwhile, the people inside the “church building” are deciding we are “lost” because we aren’t there physically. When in reality we are more found than ever. Those who wander are not always lost. I am so thankful I am where I am today spiritually and getting away from religion and religious organizations helped me and has brought healing to my soul.

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